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When I arrived in Korea in September 2013 I sort of hit the ground running as far as dating went and started finding guys to drink coffee with and go out with as soon as I arrived. I met guys at bars, at church, online, and even at the 7-Eleven by my house. I’ve polled some of my friends who have dated in Korea and I’ve racked my mind about it and so without further ado, and in no particular order, here’s a list of things I think every woman should know.I mean, I’ve always been the introverted type and have never been much of a party-girl but for me and my standards, I was going all out. By the time I had been in Korea about 7 or 8 months, I looked around and noticed I knew quite a number of other Western girls who had also been burned and disillusioned from their experiences with dating Korean men. Dating in Korea: What Every Woman Should Know 1.) Get Yourself A Korean Bestie and Pour Your Little Heart Out* Nobody will be able to give you dating advice in Korea better than another Korean and your best bet is to have a Korean girlfriend who is around your age. I’m on a long distance bus ride with one of my Korean co-workers who would end up being one of my closest friends and we’re talking about dating.Do you know how much private, one-on-one English tutors cost these days in Korea?!? Of course his English is going to be much better than your Korean so you’ll talk mostly in English but if he’s interested in you and not just the free English practice your presence provides, then he’ll also be interested in helping you study Korean.Also, introduce him to your Korean friends; they’ll help you separate the wheat from the chaff (there might be a lot of chaff).
It is the most undeniable, indisputable fact about being a Westerner trying to make relationships work in Asia.
I thought, And sometimes it was, but oftentimes it really wasn’t. And these were some Sweet, intelligent, bake you a cake and talk about real-shit girls who had absolutely had it with Korean men. Myself and my other Western girlfriends had come up with a set of sort-of standards about Asian guys and one of them was that they would disappear for weeks or months at a time and then just call or text you out of the blue.
It’s not that I had come to Korea obsessed with K-Pop and K-Dramas and wanting my own recreation of that sort of dynamic. It had happened to so many of us and it happened so regularly that we just figured it was a normal thing. I told this to my Korean girlfriend and she gave me a sort of sad, I feel-sorry-for you look. “If someone is doing that to you, it’s unacceptable behavior.” Bam!
4.) Don’t Let Yourself Be Used For English If you are a Western girl living in South Korea, you are most likely an English teacher and this can be a sticky situation because maybe you don’t mind being used for English at first but sooner or later, you’re gonna get burned.
All of my friends and myself included, we all ran into this problem multiple times.